Hamjambo friends. It is now Wednesday, and I have been living with my home-stay family since Sunday afternoon. Classes officially began on Monday, and I am just now beginning to get settled into my routine. When I met my home-stay family I was directed to a table where my home-stay mother, who prefers that I call her Mama, and three boys were sitting ranging in age from 17-30. This was unexpected because the home-stay questionnaire I had received the previous day had said that Mama had four daughters all of whom were over 18 and no sons. After light conversation with mama and the three boys, the relations of which is still something of mystery to me, we returned home. This pattern has continued, and it seems that everyday I meet someone new who is ambiguously affiliated with the family. Since they refer to everyone as uncle if they are older, or brother if they are of a similar age and parent if they are under someone’s care, actual relationships are never made entirely clear. While it is confusing to an outsider, I very much like this notion of family, as everyone stays much closer, both spatially and figuratively, and family bonds and the relationship that accompanies them are extended to many more people.
During the week of orientation we learned that home stays were chosen from all economic brackets of Ugandan society, this means that some students would live with very well to do families and others would live with lower income families. There was naturally much talk and anxiety about who would get to live with which. Upon arrival at my home stay, I realized that my family is of modest means. While many students had their fingers crossed that they would land excessively rich parents (in Uganda there is no moderate upper middle class, only very rich and everyone else), I was fairly ambivalent. Both curious to see what the day-to-day life of the average Ugandan was like, and allured by the possible luxuries of running water, electricity, and working toilets. Though I do not know on what scale Ugandans measure wealth, I would say that my family is about average. In the United States they would definitely be considered of the lower income bracket but judging by how much they seem to love feeding me, they certainly manage to put food on the table. More importantly while I am still adjusting to their customs, and have been tiptoeing around so as not to unintentionally offend anyone, they have been extremely nice, welcoming, and have done a good job of making me feel at home.
I have also been very lucky in that the house has both running water and electrical power (sometimes). We have a toilet with no seat, but this is certainly better than a pit latrine. Though we have running water we do not have any in the shower, and so I have been getting used to bathing by pouring water from a large bucket over myself. I was also amused to learn that some of my friends who live in the more well to do families, who have cars, big screen TVs, and housemaids do not have toilets and so must resort to squatting over a pit latrine. I guess the importance of a clean, fresh toilet is not quite the same in Ugandan culture as it is in the United States.
I mentioned above that I have yet to meet everyone that I live with. In the actual building, I live with Mama, Andrew, her seventeen-year-old son, and I believe Joseph her slightly older son. I am not actually sure if Joseph actually lives there as I have only seen him around once. There is a surprisingly high premium on privacy in this culture, and so I often do not know if he or Andrew is even home if their doors are closed. The property however, has several buildings on it, in which dwell other family members. In the building next to ours lives the oldest brother (once again I use the terms brother and son loosely, Mama has told me that she has only two biological sons, I do not know who is who) and his family. Though he is unmarried he seems to be in charge of an uncertain number of children (I want to say maybe 4). It is apparently customary that the oldest son move out of the house and next door, but since this is a much smaller building (only a living room and a bed room) living conditions are a bit cramped. In a room off to the side of our house only accessible from outside lives Pius, who was introduced to me as my uncle. He seems to have no children or wife of his own, and every time I’ve seen him so far he has been intoxicated. He occasionally meanders into the house asks me a few questions about America and then proceeds into lengthy explanations about how nice Ugandans are. Another figure in the house, though she does not live there, is the house maid. She is a young girl who appears to be about 16 (athough as mentioned in a previous post I have proven to be a very bad judge of the age of Africans, a pattern that surfaced on several other accounts). I believe she works for them in return for a part in the family. I believe she would also be considered a daughter of Mama, who is the clear matriarch of the household. She does most of the chores around the house, and in return is given membership to the family, albeit subordinate to other members. She speaks very little English, and avoids eye contact with me. Every day I tell her good morning and ask her how she is doing, but any further attempt at communication usually results in her thinking I am telling her to do something. This normally results in her doing random chores in an attempt to fulfill my supposed wish (last time I tried to ask her if she liked what was on the television, resulting in her getting up and turning up the volume despite the fact that I was right next to the television and she was across the room). Because of this I have given up further attempts at communication. There are also random, unexplained children constantly running around the courtyard. They clearly have some relation to the family, but since the only one who I was introduced to ran away crying (I think she had never seen a white person before) I have no idea who exactly they are.
My day begins at 6:30 in the morning. There are a number of reasons for this, but I suppose the most convincing one is because that is about when the sun rises here. My family has several chickens and one rooster. As soon as the sun comes up the rooster crows. I had always thought that they did this maybe once, just to announce the arrival of the sun. This is untrue. The rooster crows at the first sight of the sun and every five seconds thereafter until he is absolutely sure that nothing within a one mile radius can possibly still be asleep. I also awake because Mama insists that I take a shower every morning (a practice I dislike greatly since she also insists I take one every evening and for that one usually heats the water for me). Then after taking a breakfast of tea with milk and occasionally “coffee soya” which you mix in with the tea and tastes vaguely like sweetened coffee and buttered bread, we board the taxi (here called matatu) and head into the city.
I mentioned in an earlier post that the taxi system here is completely different than the taxi system in America. This is a good time to expand upon that. The taxi’s here are much more like a small bus system. Taxi’s are actually large vans, sort of like the Ford Econoline. On it there is a driver, a conductor who handles the money and ensures that passengers board and unload at the right time, and also haggles people to board. The taxi runs a particular route, making stops to pick up and unload passengers along the way. Most taxis from outside of downtown go to the taxi park. The taxi park is what I imagine the bastard child of Hell and the DMV would look like. There is almost no room to walk, there are so many taxies. There are conductors everywhere, yelling at you to board their taxi (which doesn’t make much sense because if they aren’t going where you want, you won’t go no matter how much they yell and if you are you’ll get on even if they don’t). Weaving in between these large vans, spaced literally inches apart are street vendors trying to sell anything from snacks for the taxi ride, to fake Rolexes to people late for an interview trying to look sharp. Once you board the taxi and are sufficiently packed in like a can of sardines you inevitably spend 20 minutes just trying to get out of the park, which is littered with other taxis and apparently has no governing traffic rules other than try to force your way through without getting hit. If there is any part about living in Uganda that I truly and vehemently dislike it is the taxi park.
After arriving here I see Mama off to her work. She is a cashier (or maybe a pharmacist I am unsure as people do not talk much about work here) at a pharmacy in the city. After that, I make my way to the SIT resource building where we are given two hours of Kiswahili class. After that we are bused over to Makereri University for a lecture on Development, Health, or Society (all the lecturers have been as distinguished and politically active as the one I mentioned in my earlier post, which makes me feel very honored). From here we are given an hour to eat lunch and walk the mile and a half (maybe two) back to the SIT house for two more hours of Kiswahili. To be honest I haven’t worked anywhere near as hard, or kept as busy a schedule as this since high school. On the bright side unlike high school we aren’t given any nightly assignments, and have only a few big ones due periodically throughout the semester.
After returning home around six, each night has been very different. The first day, Mama offered to take me to a beach on Lake Victoria and enjoy a drink before dinner. I soon learned that Africans take full liberty of their Sundays off. After a drink at the beach she said we should stop by another place she liked, where she liked to go discuss political issues with the local community heads, and then return home for dinner. At this place we had another drink, and then took one more for the road. I must I confess that I was looking forward very much to getting home. I was very tired, still slightly jetlagged, and had bit of an upset stomach which I think was just a byproduct of adjusting to the local food. On top of all this, getting to know someone you’ve just met, while trying not to accidentally offend them through your ignorance of their culture, especially at a place they frequent, all while drinking, can be slightly uncomfortable. It should be noted that this bar was unlike any I had ever been to before. When I walked in I saw a small countertop. Other than this the small 10x15’ room had walls lined with chairs, and a few people sitting around and discussing things in Luganda, the local tongue. At this point I became engaged in a conversation with a local. I was trying to prove to him that left handed people, such as myself, did not need to turn our paper sideways to write (although I am unsure what offense he took to this) and that we should therefore not be reprimanded for writing with our left hand in school. I proved this by writing “Hello, my name is Mike” on a napkin kept perfectly perpendicular to my body. At this he laughed and said that he was convinced and that since his own son’s name was Mike that I was now like a son to him. To prove this, he bought me several more drink, all of which showed up and were opened before I could refuse. I finally said I had had enough, thanked them and we returned home. At any rate I thought the difference in the cultural norms was worth noting.
Tuesday I returned home to find a brother (in the loose sense of the term) who I had yet to actually meet waiting for me. He asked me to attend his rotary meeting with him. Though I was pretty wiped out (as I am everyday after classes) I did not want to be rude and consented to go. I later learned that his name was Kevin, and that he too is attending University and studying economics. Though my Dad is a Rotarian at home, I have never been to a meeting and therefore know very little about what meetings in the states are like. But here they had a fairly relaxed jovial attitude, couched in a very formally structured meeting. It went smoothly until for some reason the president asked me to present a member with a congratulatory card everyone had signed. This was embarrassing, as I first had to ask her what she had done.
I bring up the rotary meeting because I think Dad would be interested to hear that the reason Kevin is so active in Rotary at such a young age is because they have agreed to pay all his college expenses. I know that local clubs in the states have agreed to help out with college fees, but in Uganda, to offer someone the chance to go to school is to offer then an entirely different life. They and their children are freed from the underclass to which they would otherwise forever be ensnared. There is no option for most Ugandan’s to pay for school. Our lecturer today informed us that the average income per capita for Uganda is 65 cents/day. As a result I believe that only something like five percent of Ugandan’s ever graduate college. Anyway I was touched, and thought Dad would be touched that an organization with which he is involved in making a real difference for real people in an area of the world that needs it about as much as anyone.
So I have fallen into a routine, and am living the busy life of a Ugandan University student. Though this is somewhat tiring, I am learning more than I ever would have back at school (mostly outside of the classroom, though I suppose a little inside as well). If you’ve noticed no further comments about Uganda’s extreme natural beauty this is because I have not left the city, which is a dusty eyesore, since my last post. Though I am enjoying myself very much, I am also looking forward greatly to our excursions out into rural Uganda. Well, that’s pretty much everything for now. Until next time, Kwaheri…. I think that’s the right way to say goodbye everyone…..